Highways of Care: Diary of a Traveling Nursing Assistant in America

by Felix Lilly

With a backpack of full scrubs, a Certified Nursing Assistant travels across Oregon and Washington on a string of trains and buses, helping strangers along the way, including a retired jazz pianist and a former shipbuilder. He discovers a new form of travel that’s driven by purpose and offers flashes of human connection between the loneliness of the road.


When you don’t drive, the map of caregiving looks different. The routes between patients are stitched together by bus schedules, transfer stations, and train platforms—a web of slow, uncertain connections that somehow holds together. 

My days as a traveling Certified Nursing Assistant begin in the quiet hum of early transit. Sometimes it’s the first TriMet bus of the morning, the kind that carries only a handful of bleary-eyed riders—a cook, a nurse, a man heading to the recycling plant. Other times, it’s an Amtrak train pushing north toward Longview or south to Eugene, the rhythm of the tracks mixing with the nervous anticipation of another new patient, another temporary home. 

In three years of this work, I’ve learned the geography of care in motion: where to find the cleanest station bathrooms, which conductors will wait an extra minute if you’re late for the connection, and how to sleep upright in a seat while holding a duffel bag full of scrubs and medical gloves. 

It’s not the usual image of a healthcare worker, I suppose—no white coat, no car full of supplies—just a man with a backpack, riding toward strangers who need help getting through another day. 

The Commute Between Lives 

Traveling by bus has a way of erasing boundaries between worlds. One stop, you’re in Portland, where the sidewalks glitter with rain and neon. Next, you’re crossing the bridge into a smaller town, where time seems to move differently, and faces look more familiar. 

I often transfer through Salem or Kelso, watching other travelers doze against their windows. For me, the movement between towns feels like crossing thresholds—stepping from one life into another. 

I remember one winter morning, taking the 6:15 bus to Astoria for a weekend shift at a nursing home perched above the Columbia River. The bus wound through forests still heavy with fog, headlights brushing moss and cedar trunks. By the time I arrived, the town was stirring—gulls calling, fishing boats creaking in the harbor. 

My patient that weekend was a retired teacher with mild dementia. Each day, she’d ask where I’d come from, and each day I’d tell her: “From Portland, by train and bus.” 

She’d smile and say, “That’s a long way to bring kindness.” 

I wanted to tell her it wasn’t kindness that carried me that far—it was purpose. But I just nodded, helped her into her sweater, and set the kettle to boil.

Train for traveling nurse

The Spaces Between Stops 

In this work, the space between assignments can be as meaningful as the care itself. 

I’ve spent hours waiting in bus stations with my notebook open, surrounded by the low buzz of vending machines and muffled conversations. Sometimes I write about the people I meet—patients, fellow travelers, or the quiet strangers who share my bench without speaking. 

In Longview, I once sat beside a man who was visiting his brother in hospice. We didn’t talk much, but when my phone alarm went off—time to head to my patient’s house—he looked at my ID badge and said, “You’re one of the helpers.” 

That word stayed with me through the night shift. I’d never thought of myself that way before, but maybe that’s what all caregivers are: travelers between worlds, helping others cross small distances—between pain and comfort, loneliness and company, dusk and dawn. 

Night Train to Eugene 

One of my longest trips was to Eugene, where I worked a short contract at a long-term care facility. The Amtrak left Portland at 6:45 p.m. and reached the station just after ten. I’d watch the city lights give way to fields, the windows reflecting faces that looked both tired and hopeful. 

When I arrived, a night supervisor met me at the bus stop with a thermos of coffee. The nursing home was quiet—just the hum of oxygen machines and the shuffle of slippers in the hallway. 

My patient was a man in his late sixties recovering from a stroke. He was a musician once, a jazz pianist who’d played clubs up and down the coast. His hands trembled, but when I helped him to the common room piano, he managed to find a few notes. 

They came out halting, fragile—but recognizable. A melody he’d written decades ago, he told me. I stood beside him, listening to the sound echo softly through the empty hall. 

That night, lying on the cot in the staff break room, I thought about how music and care were the same at their core—both ways of reaching someone without words. 

The Weight of the Backpack 

When you travel without a car, you learn to carry light. Everything I need for work—scrubs, gloves, small gifts for patients, a paperback for long rides—fits into one worn black backpack. 

But sometimes it feels heavier than it should. Not from the supplies, but from what I’ve seen.

There was the veteran in Kelso who didn’t want anyone touching his wheelchair because it reminded him of the hospital. The woman near Seaside who refused to use her oxygen tank because she said it made her feel “too visible.” The old couple in Corvallis who’d been married sixty years, holding hands across separate hospice beds. 

Each person leaves something behind in that backpack—a story, a fragment, a lesson. When I shoulder it at the next station, I carry not just my work, but the memory of their lives.

USA landscape

Care in Motion 

There’s a kind of grace in being part of the moving world—in stepping off a bus into a drizzle-soaked street and knowing you’ve arrived exactly where you’re needed, even if it’s only for a day or two. 

In Tillamook, I once helped a woman with advanced arthritis bathe and dress each morning. Her daughter couldn’t afford full-time care, so I came on weekends. Each Sunday afternoon, after the last shift, I’d wait for the bus home outside the small grocery store, watching clouds roll in from the Pacific. 

She’d sometimes ride with me as far as the next town, her hand resting on her cane, telling me stories of her childhood on a dairy farm. “The coast used to feel bigger back then,” she’d say. 

When the driver called my stop, she’d always smile and say, “Don’t forget to rest. Even healers need to heal.” 

Reflections from the Window Seat 

People sometimes ask if I ever feel lonely doing this—traveling between strangers’ homes, sleeping in rented rooms, catching late-night buses

The truth is, I do. But there’s also a quiet kind of companionship in the journey itself. 

When the train rolls along the Columbia River, I see lights flickering on the opposite shore—small towns, each with its own web of stories and lives. I think about all the unseen care taking place behind those windows: someone making tea for their partner, checking on an aging parent, comforting a child after a nightmare. 

The world is full of caregivers, most of them invisible. We just happen to move through it at different speeds. 

The Last Stop 

One of my final assignments before taking time off was in Aberdeen, Washington—a coastal town that always smells faintly of rain and salt. My patient was a former shipbuilder who’d lost a leg to diabetes. He was stubborn, funny, and endlessly curious about how trains worked.

On my last day, he asked me to wheel him to the window so he could watch the afternoon bus pull up across the street. “That’s your chariot,” he said, grinning. “You’re the nurse who rides the rails.” 

I laughed, but later, sitting on that very bus, I realized he was right. Caregiving, for me, has never been about arrival—it’s about movement. About showing up, helping where you can, and carrying the echoes of those moments forward into the next town, the next stop, the next story. 

As the bus crossed the bridge over the gray river, I thought about all the people I’d met, all the lives I’d briefly entered and left. The rain streaked across the glass like fingerprints—transient, luminous, gone. 

Epilogue: Highways of Connection 

Without a car, I’ve learned to measure distance differently. It’s not about miles or minutes—it’s about what happens in between. 

Between train stations and doorways, between strangers and caretakers, between the living and the dying, there are small acts of grace that make the world bearable. 

And maybe that’s the real highway of care—not the one drawn on maps, but the invisible one that connects us through patience, tenderness, and presence. 

Each time I sling my backpack over my shoulder and step onto a bus, I remind myself that compassion, like travel, doesn’t always need speed. It just needs direction—and the courage to keep moving forward.

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